Unfortunately, much if not most of conventional marital advice does NOT get at the fear issue, and in reality often generates more fear and uncertainty.
Love within the context of fear is tenuous and tension laden.
You live on the edge, are hypervigilent and revert to old patterns that maintain emotional distance. Love is difficult!
In the past 5 years, as I’ve reflected on my clinical research, work with thousands and my own personal experience, a model for a love that flows naturally, powerfully and easily has emerged.